c7532-33

Child's name: Kaneda and Boen
Number: C7532-33
Birthdate: 12/95 and 9/04
State: Idaho
Listed: September 2009

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Idaho Wednesday's Child/SNAPS profile for Kaneda and Boen

If you have completed an adoption homestudy and would like to have your information forwarded to this child's worker, contact us.

Meet KANEDA (12/95), pronounced “Canada,” and BOEN (9/04). Their social worker is diligently looking for a family that will welcome them both into the fold. Kaneda has been a caregiver and protector to her siblings for years. She needs parents who will allow her to enjoy what is left of her own childhood. If one family can fill this wish list, ultimately, that would be best for brother and sister. If not, they may need separate families who will help them be a part of each other's life.

"My name is Kaneda. I love the Twilight series. It's romantic and I guess I like that. I want to be in a family where I can relax and be a teenager, have friends, and not need to take care of my brother. I love him, but he has many issues. Boen needs parents who can work with him in many areas. If the two of us were to live together in one family, I would need parents who want to help me have my own space – my own room and time with friends to develop as a teenager. I'm not sure how that's going to work out.”

Kaneda enjoys church, riding 4-wheelers, doing outdoor activities, reading, and listening to music. She warms quickly to adults who are genuine in their concern for her and who focus on her strengths. She's beginning to see that attitude is everything as she's working on communication. Lately, she's been trying to meet her foster parents' expectations and complete chores. Currently, she needs an educational ally who will help her improve grades without making it a battleground.

According to her caseworker, Kaneda is very smart and can do anything she puts her mind to. She is honest and very perceptive regarding what she feels would be best for her and her younger siblings. Although she feels Boen needs a separate family, she's willing to keep an open mind that one family with two parents might be able to spread the attention around, without either of them getting the short end. What would really make that work is at least one fun, accepting parent who enjoys teens, listens to them, respects them and likes to see them establish their separate identity during this important phase of life. Kaneda needs experienced folks who have worked through the highs and lows of teen struggles with success. Kaneda would not do well with authoritative parents who expect orders to be followed without first establishing mutual respect and trust.

Kaneda has a sister who is being adopted by her foster family. She would like to stay in contact with her. Kaneda might benefit from maintaining some long distance communication with her birth father through cards and letters. These connections will help her know that her new family supports the resilience she's developed as she's struggled through grief and loss.

Boen, who loves to eat, play with cars and give hugs, has come a long way since he entered foster care. He needs parents who have experience with or are willing to learn how to work with autism. Boen has progressed from no verbal language ability to 20 words. Although his behaviors are expected by those who understand autism and fetal alcohol exposure, every day comes with its own requirement of an extra measure of patience. Boen has moved from a 9 month-old developmental level to 18 months, which is encouraging. With parents who are dedicated to continuing this progress by accessing appropriate professional services and working with him at home, Boen can maximize his abilities. It will be challenging work, made even more daunting by an older sister who also needs individual attention.

If you have the skills and the desire to be the loving family Kaneda and Boen have been needing for some time, please call. Legal risk may still exist in this case; however, there is consent to place these children in a pre-adoptive family. They need stability, committed love and folks who confront challenges with determination and humor.

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