c7579-80

Child's name: Destiny and Adan
Number: C7579-80
Birthdate: 8/99 and 1/03
State: Oregon
Listed: October 2009

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DESTINY (8/99) and ADAN (1/03) are darling siblings who want the opportunity to grow up together. Destiny and Adan are very close and bonded to one another. They look out for each other and interact in an appropriate manner.

Destiny is a very bubbly and engaging ten-year old with a contagious and hard to resist smile. Though shy initially, Destiny quickly warms up and is a friendly child. She loves to play with her brother and is always looking out for him. Destiny enjoys talking, playing outside, drawing, coloring, and playing with Barbie's. Adan is a sweet and active six-year old who enjoys looking at books and playing outside. He tends to be shyer than his sister and takes longer to warm up to people. His smile is slower to come, too, but one it does, it lights up his whole face. Adan frequently looks to his sister for approval and the two of them laugh easily together. Adan enjoys playing with his hot wheels, coloring, and drawing.

Legally free, Destiny and Adan came into foster care in January 2004. They have formed attachments with their current foster parents, with whom they have lived for the past 15 months.

Now is fourth grade, Destiny has extra supports to assist her. It is thought that hearing issues may be contributing to her slower progress. Although she has a noticeable speech impediment, she easily engages by speaking more slowly and carefully. She is described by the school staff as being helpful, caring and willing to stick with difficult tasks, although sometimes resistant to doing class work or homework.

Adan is now in first grade, where he has extra supports to assist him. School staff describe him as eager to please, respectful, and a leader among his classmates. Adan is further described as having a short attention span, reluctant to express his ideas, and being minimally responsive verbally.

Destiny and Adan are both pretty easy children to parent. Destiny some times has trouble telling the truth because she is gets so worried about getting in trouble that she makes up something as a way to avoid punishment. Adan can sometimes get bossy with other children.

Currently, there are therapeutic supports in place to help both children deal with issues of grief, loss, and abandonment, as well as to help them prepare for adoption. Being willing to participate with the children in family counseling during their transition into their new home would be a wonderful way for the adoptive folks to show their love and commitment to them. It would also show the children that the parents' value using such resources to help family members deal with past hurts and grow emotionally and behaviorally.

Destiny and Adan’s worker wants to hear from nurturing active families who will involve the children regularly in positive activities. It would be very helpful for the family chosen to adopt Destiny and Adan to have a good grasp of how early neglect and abuse can impact a child’s sense of well being and development. An ideal adoptive family would be understanding, patient, and able to meet each child’s needs. Having a parenting approach where patience, kindness, and positive affirmation are routine will meet the children’s needs best.

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